That tug that you’re feeling is calling you to step out of the routine, step out of the ordinary, and step into the extraordinary. Listen my sweet friends, it’s inviting you to Opt Out. We have not been given unto a spirit of fear., but of power, love and self control. We all, yes, every single one of us on this planet, are each called to live an extraordinary life. This can take many forms, because each of us has different callings that we are passionate about. Don’t worry if you don’t know what you are passionate about at this moment, because on the horizon is your own extraordinary path: the zone specifically designed just for you and all of your experiences and gifts. What are you waiting for? Opt out!
This podcast explores the ins and outs of “Opting Out”. Taking your ball and go home when you realize the game is rigged. Finding out what you love and doing what you love all life long. Doing the unexpected and unexpectedly ruffling feathers, many of them our own.
It is hard to pick just one thing, so expect all the things! Lots of content here: We interview those who have their own opting out stories during our “The Extraordinary Zone” segments. You will also find the “Your Extraordinary Path” series withing the series designed just for you with love. Much of it is unscripted and extremely inspired, so expect the unexpected, you are welcome here.
Storytelling is a hot topic these days. We are seeing Storytelling being used in the corporate environment, marketing and even in personal development. If someone asked, “What is your Story?”, would you be ready? In fact, how would you like to feed me Tacos and tell me your story? Last month, Isidro sat down with me and shared some amazing lessons and insight based on his experience growing up as The Proud Son of a Tacquero. We also spoke about what taco expectations look like and even ways to find good tacos.
Join me as I listen to some “Taquotes”, learn more about the benefits of storytelling and connect with 10K Tacos. If you are looking to build your storytelling skills, join our mailing list and we will send you some links to groups where you can practice story telling and if you are interested we can put together a Workshop with 10K Tacos and invite you all to build your storytelling skills and speak about avenues where you can use storytelling to improve your business, life and relationships. So, what do you think? Do you think you could be ready to Feed Me Tacos and Tell Me Your Story? Or even better, could you be ready to Feed anyone Tacos and Tell Them Your Story? 10K Tacos has a podcast about a Taco Truck. Make sure to check it out here. There is also a website where you can get taco swag, merch etc. here
So, dear friends, what barriers are you facing? Similarly, have you turned the unexpected Disruptions in life in your life into opportunities to shake things up and be a Disruptor of the status quo? Or, what does that even mean? We invite you to Listen or Watch, (See website if you are on a streaming site for video experience) as Zavanna Dova shares her story of Diagnosis and The Influencer.
Zavanna didn’t just make lemonade with her lemons, she is making a whole lemon empire. In fact, this beautiful Fashion Model and Influencer has a Fashion Blog: Live and let’s fashion . As well as, a vastly growing community on Clubhouse and Facebook called The Sisterhood of Influential Entrepreneurs. Naturally, Zavanna brings love, light and a warm welcome to all who cross her path. In addition, her Clubhouse rooms are amazing. They are full of support and encouragement to help anyone reach for the stars! It’s no wonder she is becoming the talk of the town! Additionally, some of us even shout her name in those Clubhouse rooftops. This lovely lady treats everyone like they are a celebrity and like they have true value to offer the world. See how Zavanna transforms in Diagnosis and The Influencer.
Also, listen in for her story of how she pivoted and is enjoying great success as well as advice on how to be more productive and starting a business.
Welcome to our newest Series within Opting Out! The Adventure Startup! Join us as we speak about How to Start a Business with Stephanie Verheyem. During the pandemic, this bold entrepreneur went from job loss to boss. In the midst of uncertainty, this Extraordinary Entrepreneur turned her post pandemic pink slip into pink parties and glass slippers. Now, she is becoming known around Nashville for her bachelorette parties and event planning for visitors to Music City. Trove Hospitality is a concierge event and trip planning service is becoming quite popular. This lovely lady and her start up has made a big splash! So much so that she has been noticed by an up and coming App, Bach! How exciting!
This time has many inspiring entrepreneurs wanting to begin their own Adventure Startups. Well we here love the Start Up community and all that is associated, even those seasoned organizations that employ the start up culture, there is something so exciting about the concept and seeing it in action definitely energizes enthusiasts. Do you want to go from job loss to boss? Or just plain start your own thing? Make sure to sign up for our newsletter so you will receive updates for new episodes and information about upcoming events and promotions.
Stephanie takes us with her on her Adventure Startup so that we may take a look at the ins and outs of developing Trove Hospitality. We discuss how to start a business and go from job loss to boss. So, friends get ready for strategy around marketing, developing a Plan and even bold pitching tips!
Some people will stay in the boat while others will venture on foot in the sea, walking on water, which one are you?
Identifying, Understanding and Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs
Did you know you were made to do great things? No, really, it’s true! It is why we love watching movies about adventure. Deep down we want that to be part of our story. Whether it’s opening a local coffee shop, traveling the world as a podcaster, planting a church or serving a ministry or cause in a developing country, there are extraordinary feats that we want to accomplish. Now, whether we actually try to accomplish them, that is a different matter altogether. What stops us from walking on water with confidence? Think of something that you have always wanted to do, now think of all the reasons you haven’t done it yet. Those reasons are often called Self-Limiting Beliefs. By Identifying, Understanding and Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs it makes what we thought to be impossible, possible.
On another note, let’s get together! I want to hear what you think. It’s time to have a workshop. Virtual, Hybrid and in person. The Dream Big Again—Then Activate Seminar! How many courses, books, conferences have you attended and loved then found a few months later you felt like you hadn’t made the progress you hoped for? My prayer is to crack that code. To actually host events, programs, etc. that have measurable metrics of success and provide roadmaps with short-term wins. Events customized to your needs. I believe it’s possible!
What is Resurrection Sunday? It has been quite some time since we have been able to sit down for church service in the way I had come to know in my lifetime. For many of us, things look a lot different these days. I remember taking a stroll in downtown Nashville to visit a lovely Methodist church built over 100 years ago and the door were locked! I know I shouldn’t have been surprised, but I imagined myself desperately banging on the doors yelling “sanctuary!” waiting for someone from the inside to bring me in from the proverbial cold. Yes. that is an exaggeration, but where can the cold, hungry and desperate go when the church doors are closed? Back in the day, it was during the tragic personal and world circumstances that often drove people to visit their local church.
This Easter or Resurrection Sunday morning I awoke wondering what we were to do. I always love a good Sunday church service and our littles were also interested in attending church for Easter, although these days for them it means play time. As I prayer walked my room this particular moment, I felt God building something inside of me, I was supposed to do another podcast today! And He, God that is, had it all planned out. The name was going to be “Resurrection Sunday”. Even a guest audio production specialist was willing to get it produced and ready for posting on the very same day, which is both a holiday and on the weekend. That my sweet friends is a miracle! And believe you me, EVERYTHING tried to get in the way! If I was running against the clock to deliver this podcast to the finish line, I had to jump over hungry dogs, children, dodge arrows, and get fancy with bobbing and weaving, ducking and dodging, as the distractions were launched. But here it is! Fresh out of the kitchen!
My very first Sunday sermon teaching… unabridged, unscripted, completely unexpected, and a true opt out…
*Update* I just found out my new favorite show, The Chosen released it’s first episode of season 2 on Easter Sunday and they have a miraculous testimony and the show is amazing. It’s free using a “Pay it Forward” approach. I feel a new revival or Great Awakening coming on…
Produced by: Sterling Skye Sound — A Special thanks to this amazing company being part of this miracle!
Do you remember getting this question in childhood as well as answering the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up? Back in the days of being told that “you can do whatever you put your mind to” and if you can dream it you can do it”, we found ourselves dreaming of being astronauts, rocket scientists, firepersons, zookeepers, Michael Jordan, time travelers and working at the waffle house. (Btw, that last one was a real dream of a little one who loved eating there)
Why should that stop once we are adults? Can we not still do what we dream or dare to think big? It would seem that there is an unspoken expectation that happens in adulthood. What once was “reach for the stars”, became “be realistic” or “don’t aim too high”.
What in the world is that!!!!
If we really think about it, we will see how contradictory this can be and how can we inspire the coming generations if we lose hope of doing what we love once we become adults?
So let’s have some fun….
Hello you! What do you want to be when you grow up? Dust off those old goals, dreams and plans and take another more serious look. You will be surprised at what is possible. If we have self-driving cars and a guest room in space, courtesy of the ISS, then it is definitely possible to do what you love during your lifetime. When the Wright brothers said they wanted to find a way for man to fly, I mean I wasn’t there or anything, but I imagine they were probably laughed out of whatever room they were in. Look at us now! Flying around the world is commonplace and people can even go into space!
So what amazing thing excites you? This episode explores some of the ways you can take a dream, or idea, find motivation, create a roadmap, get support and begin the journey towards your destination.
Podcast Ref: Your Extraordinary Path Episodes 1, 2 & 3
Extraordinary Health Goal: Let us look to a world of feeling better, empowered and ready for Action
I awoke the morning of recording this podcast thinking about our health and what it means to have Extraordinary Health. The health of our family and the journey of my own personal health. I was feeling so very thankful that the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual pain of feeling unwell was not with me. I remembered those days. The days of waiting for things to get better. The tears that came with the heartbreak of hoping one day things would be better. It is so easy to forget past discomfort when things are well and the skies are sunny. So, on this particular day, I was so thankful to remember, so that I could remember to give thanks. One of the best feelings I have felt in the world is the feeling of relief. When what was ailing me was suddenly gone.
Even as I write this,
I am remembering the many times after being in pain, sometimes even writhing in it, when the pain was gone and each moment passing thereafter, as the relief settled in and the feeling of euphoria spread. Part by part of my body realizing it can unclench and release as the discomfort is gone. Pain isn’t always just physical, it can be mental, emotional and spiritual. It can be all four at the same time. Oftentimes it isn’t just one of them.
So with all this in mind, I was praying and asking, if there was anything that I could do to help those in the world feel better to know a sense of Extraordinary Health. To be more capable and stronger, even for one person. That God would show me what I could do and give me what I needed to do it. I came up with an amazing idea surrounding some sort of virtual/physical experience where people could undergo transformation over time. That idea would take some extra resources, but in the meantime I could do a podcast.
So here we all are, on a journey, adventure and mission to feeling better so that we can walk our designed purpose on our own Extraordinary Path. Afterall, how can we be fulfilled if we aren’t walking in our purpose and how can we walk in our purpose if we aren’t feeling better?
What would this world be like if every single person everywhere (that leaves out nothing, no place and no one) felt healthy and better in all the ways possible?
Bearing in mind, that we cannot depend on another person for our well-being. No human being has the strength to take that on. Becoming well starts from the inside and in my experience, no matter what trauma I have experienced, it was my full transparency about who I am and what I had done or experienced and my willingness to surrender it all to Jesus, trusting and knowing He could make me well, that began my journey to healing. This was not easy, but I have never been alone and you are not alone, no matter how lonely things may feel. So my loves, join me in Opting Out of accepting unwellness and into expecting to feel better via Extraordinary Health and not stopping until we do!
Whether it’s potty training regression, or unexpected bad news, it can be difficult moving forward and to keep going when it feels like, for every step we take forward we are taking 5 steps backwards.
I often imagine myself as that person pushing a rock up a hill and never quite getting to the top, but still pushing that rock. Even the visual is a trap, set up to bring on despair and tempt one to give up the fight to get things back on track. I will sometimes hear, “why even try, nothing that you do will work”. If I let these thoughts take up too much air space, it’s not long before I am ready to take a nap on the whole situation or get super frustrated and begin a pity party of one. The blame bullies strike again! Thoughts of self-pity, feelings of defeat and blame try to take hold and crash the positive party I was trying to throw.
How did I even get to this angry and sad place?
For me personally, it is when I have trouble accepting things as they are, but rather I spend my energy trying to figure out what went wrong. From there, if it is emotionally driven, it’s a downwards spiral, from who’s to blame, how did I get here, why didn’t I pay attention, to I should know better and etc…
None of it helps and what I find is that all the while I am not getting anything done. The thing in question is still awaiting further instructions. What if, instead of getting stuck in that loop, I look, rationally, at my options? It is important for me to take stock of my emotions, but I find if I give each it’s own space, I steer clear of, what John Bunyan in his amazing book, “The Pilgrim’s Progress”, calls, “The Slough of Despond”. A very dreadful place that is quite difficult to get out of. It’s where motivation spills out.
Moving forward in coaching as well as other areas…
Focusing on the goal can be really helpful in moving forward when dealing with obstacles. If I focus on where I am going rather that what’s stopping me, I find that I am more apt to problem solve, rather than get upset and offended at various hindrances. After all, when I think about it, there is nothing I can do about the unforeseen and unexpected. What I can do is keep my goal in perspective. Sometimes that means I need a good cry at first, but as soon as I get myself together, then I can look at how excited I will be to get to my destination and really build towards motivating myself to walk the difficult, yet rewarding path ahead. After all, struggles overcome, bring amazing testimonies of faith and encouragement to others that may be walking the same path.
Did you hear a train whistle after you read that title? I sure did! Choo Choooo! 😆
I came to know about Jesus at a very young age. At around 8, one doesn’t understand politics or the nature of people. It is more of an innocent time where one sees things more as they are and less of the extra that adulthood can sometimes put on things and concepts. I didn’t begin to study the bible until my mid 20s and I wasn’t a regular attender of church until around my early 30s. What is interesting is that the more I got around “spiritual” people, the more difficult and muddled things attempted to become. What I understood at 8 up until my mid 20s was simple. I had a personal relationship with God through Jesus and He was always helping me. Helping me do the impossible, helping me through a difficult childhood and helping me navigate my innocence as a new adult in a world full of noise and suggestions. For example, how did I end up taking break from college, living in Berlin with no job, not knowing where I would stay or anyone in the area and a week later, find that I had a flat, a job and a new friend who was like family? And my original plan was to go to France! I have found myself in a variety of situations, many of them a mess. What’s amazing is that I never felt judgement or condemnation from God. Never. If you would like to know the various adventures and misadventures, let me know, it gets pretty seedy. Contrary to popular opinion knowing God doesn’t mean I am perfect or that I don’t and can’t party, celebrate and have a blast, it’s actually the exact opposite. I’m definitely on the hot mess express, celebrating joys along the way and looking for my stop!
In each of these situations, God was always there, reminding me He loved me and that He had better planned for me. He always blessed me and made me feel like His princess. This was the extent of my faith. Then I got more into social situations where I spoke about my experiences, I began to attend church and learn more about the bible. It was amazing learning about the bible and sharing my experiences and crazy times. What was a surprise, was how many people had been hurt by their churches and how many people had ideas about who God is based on horror stories involving hypocritical people in their lives. Because my relationship with God was very private for me at first, meaning my education came directly from God, I hadn’t experienced another person within my faith yet. I got an ear and eye full of people upset and hurt at God. Angry at all the nasty and quite forceful historical background of Christianity. As it turns out Jesus has some bad press due to the actions of many who claimed to represent Him and His ideas. What if someone had the gift, ability, and had been commissioned to create more truthful press around who Jesus is and what it is to be Team Jesus. Put yourself in His shoes. What if you had a bunch of people doing things you didn’t agree with and putting you on blast as the originator and you weren’t physically present to refute the claims and blame? Most people would hire an advocate to speak for them, to set the record straight.
It’s so interesting when I hear people who would have nothing to do with Jesus speak His name in frustration or as an exclamation, like Jesus is a Four Letter Word, one of those Four Letter Words. In the media I have heard so many renditions of its uses. One thing I do wonder…
Could I go on national Television and say “Jesus loves you”? Would it be allowed? Would I be “beeped”?
I was watching a current series of a show that began in the 60s. This show since its creation has had many follow up series and movies over the decades that followed and they had just began a new one. I had always seen the show as somewhat wholesome. This show aired in one of the basic network channels. As I was watching one the characters, who was portrayed as a bit innocent and sweet blurted the f bomb
I was like, wait whoa, when did I turn to a network channel? And what I will say is it was streaming on a service, so it’s possible this did not air directly on television but it was definitely unexpected. It seems as time has passed what wasn’t okay is starting to be more okay slowly over time. I am wondering what media will look like 50 years from now. Think of what is was like 50 years back?
It’s so curious to me that while some concepts and words are becoming more acceptable within the media, others have been slowly removed or maybe even banned. There was a time when shows spoke about God and the faith of a family on network television, but they seem more far and few between as time goes on.
Has Jesus been censured????? Is He now a four letter word????